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I have an angel. This angel dangles from my rearview mirror. It is pretty and it has a charm. The charm has one word:  LOVE.

I bought the angel last week when I went to Books-a-Million to buy “Accounting for Dummies.”

Don’t worry about why I bought a ‘for Dummies’ book. My daughter told me that she can’t believe I actually bought one of THOSE books.

Back to the angel.

I have road rage. I am better, but since I am a recovering road rager it doesn’t take much for it to raise its ugly head and cause me to slip over the edge into road rage abyss. Then I feel guilty because I slipped, but it was all that guys fault since he pulled out in front of me or that silly woman who didn’t check her blind spot and almost ran me off the road.

I always ask for forgiveness. For me and for them.


I had an epiphany. I will hang the little pretty angel on my rearview mirror and it will remind me of God whenever I feel a rage coming on. There were three angels: Faith, Love, Hope.

Well, I have Faith that I can overcome my road rage. I have Hope that I can overcome my road rage. How does Love apply?

That is when it hit me. I think it was God hitting me. He does that sometimes.

He said “Sonya, do you remember which were the two greatest commandments that Jesus spoke of in Matthew 22: 37-39?” Well, He didn’t quite say it like that to me, but you get the idea.

37Jesus replied: ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] –Matthew 22:37-39

That sealed it. I needed Love for my fellow neighbor’s on the road. That is why I bought the Love Angel.

When people say that they heard from God or that God spoke to them, don’t think that they are crazy. God really speaks into our spirit if we open ourselves up to Him. God didn’t say, “Sonya, buyeth the Love Angel,” or “Sonya, I command thee to buyeth the Love angel.”

Actually, He hit me with it.

Thank You, Lord. The Love Angel has blessed me and I think of You every time I get in my car and see the Love Angel. It has helped my road rage.

Yes, Lord, I know it isn’t the Love Angel that is helping me. It is YOU!



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I have really conquered my road rage. Really, I have.

Except when someone tries to run me off the road.

Which is what happened last night on my way back home from an evening of watching pee-wee baseball in 40 degree weather. Well, it was more like 60 degrees, but it felt colder than that.

Last night, I was driving along quite happily. There was this car that couldn’t quite decide if it wanted to go fast or my speed. It passed me once, but then it slowed down…in the fast lane.

Usually, when a car can’t make up its mind what speed it wants to maintain it is a good indicator that the driver of the car is somewhat distracted.

Well, I was cruising along in the slow lane and indecisive driver was driving along in the fast lane. I was in the process of passing the indecisive driver when the car begins to come over into my lane. Seriously.

I had to swerve off the road to avoid being hit by the indecisive driver.

I was not happy. Not one bit.

After being hit by a drunk driver less than a year ago, I was fed up and I began my venting tirade. I blew my horn. Called the woman an idiot. She didn’t see or hear any of my tirade because she was in another vehicle and the indecisive car decided to roll along at a slower pace than a snail.

Then came the red light. No other cars around at all. Just my car parked at the red light in the slow lane and her coming up (very slowly) to the red light in the fast lane. She stopped her car way back behind the little stop here now white line that is present at every red light. I could sense it–she was afraid.

And she should be.

Because she had just made a recovering road rager very angry and frightened because of what could have happened since my entire family was present in the vehicle with me. It didn’t occur to me that I might be frightening my children and my husband.

Yes, I yelled out the window at her. She looked like she was trying to text on her phone. I told her that she needed to pay attention to what she was doing. Then the light turned green and she took off like lightening. 

So, what does this recovering road rager do? I blow my horn and get behind her. I wasn’t doing anything wrong. It was the direction that I go home. I can’t help it if she thought that I was following her.

Then I turned and the entire episode was finished. My son told me that the decent thing to have done was not to yell at her. Well, of course the decent thing to have done would have been just that. Unfortunately, when something happens that makes me aware of how something as precious as the lives of my children can be taken away in a second because of the stupidity of someone not paying attention to what they are doing, decency happens to take a back seat and anger rears its ugly head. Along with the feeling of wanting to rip someones head off.

The good thing is that we are all fine and I am thankful for that. Jacob said he was glad no one from church was there to see it. 

Well, just because I am a Christian does not make me perfect. I am just forgiven and I did pray about it later. I feel like it probably scared that woman just as much as it scared me, but I wasn’t able to think that clearly at that moment. If nothing else, she will pay more attention to what she is doing so she doesn’t bring out the recovering road rager in someone else that is struggling with it more than I am.

So, here it is…

Hello, my name is Sonya. I am a recovering road rager. I have been road rage free for less than 24 hours now…however, I believe my anger was warranted last night…

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I use charts, lists, and a huge calendar to keep my family organized–or at least try to, anyway. I felt like it was a losing battle. I have to constantly remind my kids to check their lists. I have to remind them to actually do the stuff on their list. I don’t always get to everything on my list because life gets in the way. Life has a funny way of doing that sometimes. 

My mother (who is my biggest critic) came over Friday morning. She commented on how clean my house was and asked if I had spent the night before cleaning. I told her that I had not and I looked around my kitchen. I realized that my house was clean. It was clean without me having to spend hours cleaning.

All this time that I thought I was fighting a losing battle, I had actually won it.

Sometimes, it just takes stepping back and seeing your situation through the eyes of others to see the real picture. I am sure this applies to more than just my clean house. Thanks Mom!

Have a Blessed Day!

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I would think that traditions are important to a lot of people, especially around the holidays. Some traditions are complex while others are simple. Some involve religious beliefs while others do not. Who knows, you may have a tradition that you don’t even think of as a tradition.

I was thinking about the traditions in my own family. We have traditions such as doing crafts at Thanksgiving and Christmas. Even something as simple as having my Grandmother’s Chicken and Dumplings at every holiday could be viewed as a tradition.

I think about how my mother and I would go out to eat, then to the movies every Saturday when I was a teenager. That was sort of our mother and daughter time. Even now, I still go shopping (most of the time it is to Sam’s or the grocery store) with my mom on most Saturday’s. We don’t get to the movies much anymore, but I feel like we have continued the tradition of spending time together on Saturday’s.

Now that I have my own children, I am thinking about traditions that I celebrate with them. Sadly, I can’t think of anything really significant that we could call a “tradition” other than attending church, but I don’t know if this qualifies as a real tradition. I think that my family gets so caught up with life that we forget to stop every now and then and enjoy being together as a family.

So, I need some inspiration! I want to hear about your family traditions.   🙂

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In the tough economic times, I imagine that there is one business that is thriving: the self-help book/programs.

I am a fan of Dave Ramsey and I have his book, “Financial Peace,” but let’s face it folks–this stuff is common sense and evidently, the U.S. is full of folks that doesn’t have any common sense.

I decided to search and discover what other kinds of self-help books/programs are out there. I found a website offering free self-help. Actually, it was the first one that was listed. The following is random stuff that I found on the website.

“Why You Should Use Fruits For Constipation”; “The Poop On Colonics”; and “Using Carrot Juice for Relieving Constipation” There must be a lot of people out there dealing with constipation.

“Too Tired to Lose Weight?”  So, that’s why I can’t lose weight–I get up early, go to work, run around after four children all afternoon, and collapse into bed every night. 

“Beating the Breakfast Rush Hour”  I get up a few minutes earlier and my kids know how to make their own oatmeal. I don’t stress out over trying to make a great breakfast every morning.

“You Cant Lose Weight If You Listen To Your Family And Friends”  No, you can’t becauseevery thing seems to revolve around food–or at least with my family and friend. They sabotage your efforts to lose weight.

“We’re Eating Ourselves to Death”  And this is the reason that we need all the self-help books on losing weight.

Using numbers is important, too. There are all kinds of “7 tips to blah blah blah” self-help stuff out there.

“De-Stress Yourself With Water Oxygen And Sunlight!” OK. Go to the beach if you want to de-stress yourself, but if you can’t afford this, then just breathe, take a nice bath, and go outside in the sun and just keep breathing.

“It Pays to Have a Good Attitude” I remember my grandmother, a very wise woman, saying that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. 

“Drink Deeply – Consuming proper amount of water”  Correct me if I am wrong, but doesn’t everyone know that 8 glasses of water or 64 oz of water is the standard amount of water to be consumed daily? I feel pretty sure that I have heard this somewhere…

“What is Stress & How do you Manage Stress?” If you don’t know what stress is, then why would you need to manage it? Seriously, don’t stress over defining stress.

“Meditation and visualization for relaxation” Find a happy place.

“Anxiety – what is it?” Again, don’t get all bent out of shape trying to define anxiety.

“5 Ways to Kick the Procrastination Habit!”  I will check this one out later.

“Does Social Anxiety Hold You Back?” Yes, and I am just fine with it.

“Making Life Count” Everyone’s life counts for something–just make it count for good not bad.

“You ARE loved”  I know.

“Useless Facts To Make Life More Fun” I just like this one.

“Making Christmas Meaningful” What? Remembering the meaning of Christmas will make it more meaningful.

“The Truth about McDonald’s and Children” They beg to go there every time they see the golden arches.

Christians are not immune to self-help books, either. Which is kind of an oxymoron now that I think about it. Honestly, the only self-help book a Christian needs is the Bible. Unfortunately, it is often the last book that some read for advise.

Honestly, it is not my intention to demean people that use self-help books, but to just simply make a point that sometimes we just need to step back, think about the situation, and use our common sense.

However, if you take a step back, think about your situation, and nothing comes to mind, then by all means–find a self-help book.

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I started reading “The Shack”  a couple of months ago, but I couldn’t get through the first chapter because I was big pregnant and I was busy at work.

On maternity leave, I picked up the book and began reading it from the beginning. I couldn’t put it down. I read it in two days.

It is a wonderful book. It answered many questions that I have had as a Christian and opened my eyes to different things about myself that I didn’t even realize. There were definitely some light bulb moments and it forever changed the way I think about God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.

I recommend this book to everyone: Christian or not. It is just that good.

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